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Happy New Year – It is almost 2018!!

So much to write about 2017! I started a new job and have not been posting as much as I’d like this year;  I’ll do a summary and share some of blended family learnings…

Here is MY 2017 top ten list of learnings about living in a blended family (yes, it has taken me +9 years to actually learn all of these!)

  1.  Choose your battles 
  2.  Lower your expectations (of the “perfect” blended family)
  3.  Focus on being GRATEFUL
  4.  Things change as the kids grow up – adjust
  5.  Make NEW traditions (see #4)
  6.  Don’t forget to focus on your marriage
  7.  Celebrate the small accomplishments and the large ones too
  8.  Build traditions that can continue for decades
  9.  Don’t force it
  10.  Recognize (and focus on!) the positive in every member of your blended family
  11. BONUS — take family photos!! (over the years you will appreciate how much everyone has grown!)

HAPPY NEW YEAR FROM LUCKY SEVEN FAMILY!!

Tuesday Tip: Where will you be?

As many of you know, peppering your children with questions about their social lives, school day, or pretty much anything, is not the most effective way to get a conversation going!  We have a fun, yet highly informative, way for you to learn more about your children.  At our family dinners, we play a game called “Where will you be?”  Each child takes their turn telling us where they will be in 5, 10, 20 years (you choose the number of years from now).  The idea is to get them talking about WHERE they will be, WHAT  they will be doing, and WHO they will be spending time with.  We started this when we first became a blended family.  In those early days, our youngest was about 3 years old!  Her answers were cute and usually a play on something one of the older children had mentioned – my, how our lives have changed.  Now, she talks about graduating from high school 10 years from now!  This “game” is a no-pressure way to understand more about your children’s hopes and dreams – what college do they want to attend?  where do they want to live?  what subjects excite them?  where do they want to travel?  These are all amazing things you can learn from a “game”.

Try this with your blended family tonight!