In my last post I shared how my ex- and I manage Christmas holidays…
Now, for Russell and his kids:
Russell and his ex-wife have a very set schedule that we rarely sway from. They alternate Christmas Eve and Christmas Day every year with the following schedule:
Christmas Eve 5pm to noon on Christmas day (Parent #1)
Christmas Day noon to 8am the following day (Parent #2)
The week b/w Christmas and New Year’s (Parent #1)
Santa visits each home separately and there is very little, if any, coordination of gift planning. Even with that, there are usually not too many duplicate gifts to deal with so that is helpful! Russell plans a decadent Christmas meal each year and either has that for Christmas Eve dinner or for Christmas Day dinner. One year dinner was lobster and steak – talk about yummy! His brussel sprouts are to die for too!
His children participate in a church nativity scene each year on Christmas Eve and being the dedicated dad that he is, he always attends their play whether he has them for Christmas Eve or not.
So, when do Russell and I exchange gifts and celebrate our Christmas together? Based upon the different schedules we usually either have a little quiet time together on Christmas Eve or late on Christmas night. Our first focus is on our children and families; whether that means we are separate with them or we are all together as LUCKY SEVEN FAMILY. Regardless, we always find time to enjoy an hour or two of quiet time and celebrate together.
Over the years, I’ve realized that putting pressure on ourselves to make our crazy lives “perfect” is NOT the goal. Happiness and contentment is the goal; for us and for our children. Thus, no matter when it is that we can bake cookies, open gifts, share a Christmas meal, we always make sure that everyone in LUCKY SEVEN FAMILY knows that our Christmas is about fun, love and gratitude. It may take some extra planning but in the end we are building a strong family with ties that will last for many, many years.
It’s late, but Happy Holidays to all of you!! Hoping our experiences help you in making your experience positive ones!